All too often, we say “yes” to other people whenever we are asked to do something. But deep down we don’t want to do it. We just develop a habit of never saying “no”.
Often we say “yes” but deep down we feel resentful even though it was our decision in the first place.
We suppress those feelings of resentment, but, with time, those emotions chip away at our vitality.
Emotions are vibrations, they are energy, and energy has to go somewhere. Instead it piles up in our body.
Those negative feelings start then to corrode the relationship with ourselves, our self-confidence and consequently the relationship with the people in our life.
We have learned from our society belief system that it’s selfish to say “no” to other people, that it’s impossible to say “no” and be loved.
But the truth is that when you say “yes” to someone else you’re saying “no” to yourself and your priorities. You are volunteering in a self-sacrifice.
The real reason behind our saying “yes” is that we want remain a good, lovable person. We develop the habit of never saying “no” because we want to be loved and approved by the other people.
The real problem is that we are going to fail in our life by never saying “no” because we live someone else’s life, we don’t live for ourselves, for our projects, our desires.
In the long term this isn’t sustainable and is detrimental for our energy, body and relationships.
So, at that point, we come to the realization that we are damaging not only ourselves but other people as well because of the very person we have become.
So, you have to convince yourself that it’s OK to say “no”, it’s OK to be self-focused.
Because it’s not selfish at all as they want us to believe. It’s the way to become a stronger person and in this way to be naturally of help to other people.
Self-focus is not selfish. It’s the foundation to build a better world. It’s the root from where everything grows. So, always stand for the truth of who you are.