Often we are caught in negative behaviors or self-damaging situations and we don’t manage to let them go.
We can’t seem to be able to set ourselves free from unwanted situations. The reason is that we don’t identify the hidden positive intention.
There are positive intentions behind every action or belief we hold, behind everything we do or happens to us.
Indeed, there’s only one reason why we act in a certain way or we hold a certain belief: we are convinced that it will enable us to feel better in some way. In other words we think that it serves us positively in some way.
The problem is that, often, this hidden positive intention is buried so deep that we don’t have conscious awareness of it.
The positive intention behind our actions may be different for every people because everyone of us responds to the world in a different way.
However, to keep it simple, here are some examples of common hidden positive intentions for certain situations:
- Doubting of ourselves. The hidden positive intention may be to prevent us making a decision so that we can’t be hold responsible for making the wrong decision. In that way we can maintain approval from other people.
- Beating someone up. The hidden positive intention may be to feel a sense of power instead of powerlessness.
- Lying. The hidden positive intention may be to make ourselves seem more impressive to other people. So it is our way to feel that we are good enough and to get approval and support from other people.
- Killing someone. Killers usually feel separate from people and the world. When they kill someone, they feel like they were suddenly significant in their lives. The hidden intention is to feel a sense of power, control and significance.
We can see that those behaviors (that may damage ourselves or others) all come from our wounds.
Because we are not bad. We are just wounded.
And we try to heal our wounds through our hidden positive intentions even if we are not aware of that.
The way to heal ourselves is to discover the hidden positive intention, to discover what is the need associated to it, to discover what our desire is.
And then we can find healthy ways to fulfill that needs. We can find alternative ways that are not detrimental to ourselves or others.
In conclusion, our healing depends on our commitment to be honest with ourselves and find the positive intentions that are buried within us.
Also our ability to live in a peaceful and serene way towards others depends on our ability to recognize those hidden positive intentions in them.
You should always say: “I go beyond fears and limitations of other people, I control my life”. And you say that from a place of freedom, peace and love, not frustration.