How To Take Back Control Of Your Life From Controlling, Unsupportive Family And Friends

Often, people that have no dreams influence you to stay out of your dreams. They influence you to believe that you’re not enough to achieve such high goals.

It may seem sad to say this but family and friends are, in most cases, the first who prevent you from reaching something that you’re passionate, excited about, something you have a vision for.

Understand why family and friends are unsupportive

When people don’t understand what you’re trying to do they’ll push you to do what they know how to do. It’s the fear of the unknown.

A parent can understand how a computer scientist can succeed. They may have no idea how an online business can succeed.

And they will push you to do what they know best. Because they love you. And they want you to be safe.

But if you feel something different inside, you should have the courage to go against the grain. Here’s why: nobody can hear your heart beating; nobody can see what you see.

Sure, following your passion may be a challenge; there’s the risk to fail, to be rejected, to be criticized.

But what other people think of you should not interfere with what you want to become.

Because before anyone else in the world believes it, you have to believe it.

You have to invest in yourself, you have to work on yourself.

Everything grows from the person you think you are capable of.

I love it when people doubt me. It makes me work harder to prove them wrong. – Derek Jeter

Don’t let the negativity of this world knock you down. Don’t let it win. Don’t go where the path may lead. Go where there’s no path and leave a trail. – Prince EA

Self-doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. – Suzy Kassen

Take back control of your life

Now, what happens when parents or friends continue being unsupportive of your goals and dreams?

It’s very difficult, right?. I can’t say to you that it’s easy. It’s not at all.

But to start attracting love and support you have to learn to cultivate love and support within yourself first.

The fact is we always think we have an obligation to our family because they raised us, they fed us. Many of us feel that it is our duty to please our family.

But at the same time you have to ask yourself: “At what cost? At the cost of our own unhappiness?”

This is not what they want anyway.

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Here’s are 5 things you can do to take back control of your life…

1. Don’t argue

Arguing is the one thing you should never do. It’s a waste of energy because you are on opposite sides of the battlefield and no one will give up.

You are looking at the problem from two different perceptions of reality that may be both right. So acknowledge their concerns. You’ll never change their mind.

Just say “I understand your reasons, but I have to try, I don’t want to regret a thing.” Regret is something that everyone can relate to.

2. Slowly redirect a force

You don’t need to fight a force. You are going to get hurt. What you can do is slowly redirect it.

That means you can persuade better through agreement than through conquest.

3. Tell them how you feel

Tell your parents (or friends) how you feel so that they get to see who you really are.

Do what you want to do. Learn to say “no”, when you want to follow another path.

How do they take it? Maybe not so well, at first. But if they can see your evolution they come to accept who you become.

So you don’t want to live up to your family’s expectations but at the same time you want to keep the peace.

The only way to do that is to show your family who you really are.

 4. Prove them wrong

If they tell you can’t do something, that’s the very reason why you have to do it!

Those are powerful words for you because now you are bounded and determined to show them that you can.

It’s true, when people drag you down,it can have a negative effect on you. You may slow down or even stop and move backwards.

But only if you let it.

Because if you have the proper mindset, they will do nothing but make you more determined to get to your goals.


About The Author

Hi, my name is Fabrizio and I’m grateful that our paths have crossed.

My mission is to help people who struggle with physical and/or emotional health to guide and empower them to create a vibrant, healthy and fulfilling life.