Are Long-distance Relationships Possible? (Part 2 of 2)

Despite many difficulties (read part 1 in the previous post), long-distance relationships are possible. Because everything is possible if you think it is. Everything is possible if you are willing to give up something today in exchange for something better tomorrow.

To sooth the feeling of distance you have to try to keep communication alive as much as possible.

Of course this is not possible in any situation and any moment of the day; in those cases you have to trust the other person.

Yes, long-distance relationships require a lot of trust to be maintained.

Distance doesn’t mean you can’t have meaningful interaction. Skype and Hangouts, for example, provide great opportunities to spend quality time with your partner.

Today is easier to share photos, talk over video other than voice and text messages.

You can do things together even though at a distance like listen to the same song, cook the same thing, doing the same activity and sharing comments and experiences.

However, interaction and communication are worthless if nothing ever changes.

Because this is a situation that can be maintained only on a temporary basis, it’s not a permanent solution.

The biggest problem is that, depending on where you’re at in a relationship, talking about plans to move to be together may be premature and put unnecessary pressure on you both. Unfortunately, there’s no way to avoid this problem.

Long-distance relationships where you don’t plan a goal together—a vacation, the next meetup or a permanent relocation—are relationships destined to end. It may be true, sometimes is too premature to plan to relocate just yet, but you can at least plan your next meetup.

Indeed having a target to look forward to can help you alleviate some of the stress associated with the feeling of distance.

Finally, a long-distance relationship isn’t really a relationship.

It’s just the promise of one.

When you’re in a long-distance relationship, you just make a lot of promises. You imagine things you will do, things you desire to do. You may be the most honest person on the world, but you are just making a bunch of promises.

Promises that you have to maintain later.

Or else the illusion will be shattered.

 

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